The first to apologize, is the bravest.
The first to forgive, is the strongest.
The first to forget, is the happiest.
I have read this in a post. When you think about it, it really is true. Because in an argument, there is no one that is more correct nor more incorrect than the other. As long as you are a part of the quarrel, you are automatically incorrect, or so just for me. I remember before when we were young, at home, when we get into fights (no physical attack, thank goodness) with one another, our mother would scold both. Both of us would be punished for not getting along well. I did not understand why it has to happen like that. Because for me, I was the one inconvenienced EVERY SINGLE TIME. Well that’s what I believe in, because I always feel like the unloved one. But now that I think about it, I should not have thought like that. Because, when we don’t get along with someone, obviously, we have different sides of the story, and we have different understanding of how things work, that is why we argue. So in the end, even though we fight (but not that often), we always would be better by the end of the day.
When we become okay with one another, we don’t say anything to each other, no further thoughts and conversations. And even, no apologies required. We would just have to talk to each other casually, well because we don’t have a choice but to say something to the other sibling. There are the homeworks that we seek the help of one another, and toys that we have to borrow just because that’s what we wanted to play with at that moment. So apparently, we have to get along with the people that we share the same blood and parents with because even if you are miles and miles away from one another, they will always be the first one that we would run to when we need help. And you know that they will be there for you.
So then now that we are all grown ups, we got along better than before. And if ever we have some misunderstandings, we talk to solve it before it grows bigger. I hope that we can get to be better human beings and able to say I’M SORRY, because, as Elton John said it, “Sorry seems to be the hardest word.” Yet, it always helps to say it, because it starts the healing process for both parties.
People who are able to say that they are sorry, always feel better than those who could not utter it. So for those who have a hard time apologizing, try it. You may start by saying sorry to those whom you have hurt mildly. Believe me, it goes a long way. 🙂