After the I do’s

One of my friends called my attention awhile ago and asked if I am excited on my wedding day. I was like, ‘uh.. A little bit.’ And then he asked, “Are you nervous?”, and then I said, ‘Yeah. I am afraid that things might go wrong on that day, or that things won’t go as planned.’

So, really, I just want to know if what I am feeling right now is just like how any other woman or brides-to-be feel.

A part of me is excited on our big day. But one part of my brain is afraid — afraid of all the changes that will occur as we start a new journey as married couple. We had a long engagement (started September last year), and so we had a long time to waste on preparing for our wedding. There were months when we had nothing to worry about because at the back of our heads, there is still a long way to go. Days went by, and then weeks, and then months, and soon, we have less than a week to go before the 17th of December arrives. We couldn’t help but go crazy about the smallest stuffs that others think don’t do harm to the event, but we felt otherwise. Hopefully, these worries over small things that we currently keep on thinking about will be buried by the enjoyment on Sunday. And instead of focusing on one day, I know that what we should be readying for is how to adjust and survive what others call – being held captive by someone who you will piss off for the rest of your life. I know that a lot of things will change — uhm well, that is other than my civil status — my way of living, the place I live, the way I go to work, my lifestyle, the person I will be living with, the person who will be sleeping beside me (I share the same bed with my sister), my schedules on weekends, the mall I will be going to, the time of breakfast, lunch and dinner, the food that I will be serving, but also, the amount of food to serve, and even my priorities as somebody else’s wife.

Scary as it sounds, I hope and pray that God would ready us and guide us as we go along the way. Anyway, I only have like less than 119 hours and 30 minutes left before marching through the aisle of all the people whom I care for.

Ephesians 5:22-33 – 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansinga her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”b  32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

This is one of my favorite verse, because it is what God has planned for in our book. Being submissive to your husband does not mean following everything that he tells you to do, rather, for me, it means that we should allow him to lead the family, and that we should trust and believe in his choices and decisions. I believe that God was purposeful when He allowed us to meet our other halves. Because He knows his (husband) and our weaknesses and strengths, and He wants us to compliment each other, and help one another. There will never be a perfect prince charming for us. But a person whom God has sent us to care for and to love despite his flaws is the perfect one for us.

Mark 10:9 – Therefore what God has joined together let no man separate…

God should be the center of our marriages. We should follow His words so that no matter how hard a situation we may encounter, nothing shall ever take you apart. In this life, being married or single has their pros and cons. If we have problems with our partners, we should never (never ever!) run to somebody else of the opposite sex. Because this will not solve the problem, rather turn hearts away from the love that God has bound together. What’s best to do is to pray to God, talk to our partner and solve the problem together. God will be there to listen and help us improve on our relationship towards one another. (I don’t mean only to our spouses, but also, to anyone whom we could not be in good terms with.) God really does wonders. 🙂


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