Being angry makes us say all the mean things to somebody, even if sometimes that somebody is not the one that caused you to become ill tempered. I always struggle in this part of me. I easily get irritated and get mad whenever I don't have something my way. Maybe because I grew up like that. I got used to not being able to have what I want. But I think it's kinda weird why I am being like this. It should have been the other way around right? I don't even understand why I am like this. It just happens that way.
I know that this is not justifiable enough. Some people blame their parents for their bad behaviors. They blame them for spoiling them, that is why they grew up brats. But in my own opinion (maybe some of you would disagree), our attitude will always be in our control. As an adult, you should know what is right from wrong, which should be done and should be not, and what words should come out from your mouth, and which of them should be not spoken about.
After having been said that, I know that when I am angry, I should not speak one word. Because I know that whenever I will, it will damage somebody else's heart. That is why most of the time, when I know that I am in a beast mode, I try my best to keep my mouth shut. And prevent myself from saying mean things to the people around me.
Exodus 14:14 – "God will fight the battle for you. And you? You keep your mouth shut!"
God will always be there through thick or thin, in sun or in rain, in good times and in bad times. We (rather, I) should always keep in our minds that no matter what happens, especially when we feel that we are being treated unfairly, being judged wrongly, God will be there to protect us, and fight for us. So there is no need for us to lift a finger to fight for ourselves, because God will face the enemy for us, heads on, and withour fear.
Seek help from God if we know that we are at risk. Pray: Psalm 141:3 ESV – "Post a guard at my mouth, God, set a watch at the door of my lips!" Seek help to not speak the most hurtful words, to save us from sinning, because if we hurt our neighbors, it is the same as hurting God Himself.
For when in a heated discussion with someone, as much as possible, try to remain calm, and answer in a gentle way. Just like what was said in the seminar ("Before and After I do") that I attended last Saturday, they said that we should not talk when we are angry, and when angered, do not answer in a shouting way. Because shouting does not solve the problem, but it makes the quarreling worse.
Proverbs 15:1 – "A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper fire."
I thank God for allowing me to write. Because in this way, I could express my feelings. Also, I was able to release my tension, and make myself feel better. 🙂