Action Speaks Louder than Words

Me and my friends were doing our usual eating-lunch-while-having-chitchat-at-the-same-time routine as we help ourselves during our noontime break.

When suddenly our topic came off across as to what one of my friend’s husband was looking for in a wife when they were introduced.

At the back of my mind, I thought that he must be looking for a loving wife who will love and will take good care of her children and who only wishes what’s best for her child. Exactly how I view my friend to be.

But the words that came out were “anyone as long as she is not a Christian.”


It kept my mouth shut. I didn’t know what to say.

After lunch, I shared the same story to my other Christian friend. Sad to say but admittedly, he knows that many Christians are a huge turnoff to other people. I couldn’t blame him though. True enough, I also had the same mindset years ago. Though it didn’t occur to me as to choose someone not Christian as my husband. What was on my mind is that Christians have an attitude. That even though they spend and visit the church more often than me, it just tells me that they think differently than others. And that they wouldn’t even make friends with other non Christians. The belief came to me after experiencing it first hand.

I had friends before that suddenly didn’t wanted to be with me anymore. And one of them is a Christian. As confused I was, I couldn’t even think of how I hurt them, and they wouldn’t tell me nor talk to me. So it was the only reason that I thought of and it stuck in my mind for so long. It has already been a decade but everything is still unclear.

I have moved on with the help of some friends. I learned that nothing in this life is permanent. That the only thing that’s constant is change. When people’s role in your life is over, we have to move on. To meet new people who will again make an impact in our new chapter.

God is forever good. He didn’t want us to stay with people whom He thinks is already unimportant in our lives. He took them away for me to meet new set of friends who I will cherish more and those that will give more meaning to my life.

But apart from the people that He sent to me to help me, what I loved the most about Him is that He allowed me to get to know Him better. Many people were sent to me to learn His teachings and how to understand humanity. That what I should remember always is that God lets us experience all the pain now because He wants us to be relieved in the near future.

Revelations 21:4 – “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”

All that we are suffering at right now will be over. And at the end we will all be reunited as sons of God. đŸ™‚

I hope that Christians who are not practicing real Christianity would be enlightened and stop damaging the image of Christians. Only then will non Christians be guided and be encouraged to get to know our God and to accept Him as the one creator of this universe.

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